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--> 5 questions you should never ask your man <--
Your relationship
is perfect. Your partner has all the qualities that you want in a man. Yet you
can't stop thinking about his past. If he is so perfect, then what went wrong
with his other relationships? Is he as serious as you are about your current
relationship? But did you stop to think that wanting to know every single
thought or feeling that goes through his mind is really not fair? And even
worse, it could destroy your relationship as well. Some topics are best left as
they are. After all, everyone is entitled their personal feelings. Here is a
list of questions you should avoid bringing up:
1. Do you find other women attractive?
Face it — if a gorgeous woman saunters past, any normal-blooded male is bound to
look and think that she is hot. However, that does not mean that he is any less
attracted to you or that he is comparing the two and you come out on the
thumbs-down side. It's normal for men to look and fantasise. As long as he does
it discreetly, you don't have to worry. Asking him about it will cause
embarrassment and he will feel like you're watching his every move. Enjoy the
fact that he loves you.
2. What went wrong with your past relationships?
You don't need to know every detail about his life before you came on the scene.
He is going to hate it and you will drive yourself crazy obsessing about
matching up to his old flame, if he is really over her or if you make him
happier than she ever did. Remember, he might not even be the same person he was
back then. He has decided to move on and so should you.
3. Where is our relationship headed?
Most women can't wait to get into a ‘serious' discussion’ about the status of
their relationship. But sitting your guy down and asking him where he envisions
your relationship heading is not a good idea. He will just feel pressured and
restless. He might even wonder whether this is leading up to a discussion on
marriage possibilities. He will definitely have an idea about your relationship
but pushing him into a discussion before he is ready could lead to an awkward
situation. Your partner could feel that you're being judgmental and the you
could drift apart. The best strategy is to keep communication lines open at all
times. This way you can both express and deal with feelings when you are ready.
4. What's going through your mind?
A question that's often asked in bed. It has the potential to kill the mood and
force your partner into an awkward corner. Although he loves you, it's not
unusual for guys to fantasise about others during sex. And probing into his
secret fantasises could make him feel guilty and judged. On the other hand, he
might want to share them with you. In that case, make sure you can handle it. If
you don't think you could tolerate the details, convey that to him, gently.
5. Do you have more fun with your friends than you have when you're with me?
You can't expect to be included in everything he does. The fact is that no
matter how much he loves spending time with you, he also enjoys and needs to be
able to bond with his friends and family. The happier he is, the more he can
give to your relationship. So don't grudge him the time he spends hanging out
with his pals or demand to know everything that was said or happened. The best
kind of relationship is when two people are secure and confident enough to let
their partners be happy without being glued together.