Politely flirtatious!

Here is how you can let him or her know your intentions without being too explicitly suggestive

You’re out with a couple of friends and you spot a man or woman who you are instantly attracted to. Things go well — you exchange looks, start talking and after a drink or two it is time to go home. Here is where most people start to get anxious. It is one thing to be out and get flirty verbally, but, once you’re alone with him or her at home, how can you let him or her know what’s on your mind without sounding like you only took the trouble to get so far because of sex. The catch here is that both of you probably know that the meeting is going to end in sex and that you would probably be interested in this person. But how to get the vibe across without sounding crass is where the trick lies. Read on for tips on how to be suggestive without being lewd:

CASUAL TOUCHES

This should be easy to do because the reason why the two of you are at this point is because you’re attracted to each other. In fact, it is one of the simplest ways of letting someone know your intentions. But when one says causal touch, keep it just that — casual. Don’t go around groping him or her or ogling at their body like a sex starved maniac. Keep it simple; a slight stroke on his or her cheek (the cheek on the face that is), a little bit of holding hands, or a flirtatious touch on the area behind the neck should be just fine and send out your message loud and clear.

BE STRAIGHTFORWARD

In the time that you spend with him or her before eventually coming back home, you can gauge whether or not he or she is the type of person who is open minded about these things. If you get an open vibe then you probably won’t even have to do much talking; he or she will pick up on subtle signals and you can take it from there. However, if you have landed the difficult job of meeting someone who needs to be cajoled into having sex, make sure you are very careful and don’t cross a line. Tell him or her gently how you find them irresistible and then slowly make your move so as not to intimidate them.

BE LIGHT HEARTED

Things like these need not be serious and intense. The best way to get someone to relax and feel comfortable is to be humourous and get them to loosen up. Joke about things and see the lighter side of the situation, make him or her feel as calm and chilled out as possible. There is nothing better than laughter to break the ice, so just remember to keep things funny.

BE PLAYFUL

By being playful, it does not mean you behave like a school girl or boy and tease the other person by tugging at their clothes or pulling their hair. Be playful in a flirty way, tease in a sensual manner so that he or she gets sexually excited. This will also show him or her you know how to have a good time and enjoy yourself and, therefore, keep the company you’re in interested.

DANCING

This one is reserved for those of you who can dance, or for those of you who can’t, but at least know how to pull it off without causing yourself embarrassment. There is nothing better than dancing to put someone in the mood. You have the perfect reason to get close to him or her and dancing can lead to all kinds of sizzling delights later. The way you move on a dance floor can be manipulated to flirt with someone. So go for it.

FOOT RUBS

After all the dancing, his or her feet might really be sore. What you can do to fix this and score some points with him or her, is get them a drink and give them a thorough foot rub under the table. Let your hands wander ever so subtly upward, but not past the knee. He or she will get an idea of your real intentions pretty quickly.

EAT

Food is an undeniably effective aphrodisiac. So, get him or her out of the bar and into a nice little comfy restaurant where you can share some food. Then immediately take him or her home and let the aphrodisiac work its magic.